I’m giggling right now because I can just imagine what you are thinking after reading the title. Let me reassure you that all is well before I go any further with this post. For those that know me they may say otherwise but in all seriousness at this time all is well. Let’s move on shall we?
How doe
s a mom handle the announcement of their first son (fourth child) wanting to marry? Do you cry because you’re sad or do you rejoice because that means one less child in the house? Numerous questions start coming to min. Then there the various emotions that unfold. Has anyone out there experienced this?
This is the son who we had hoped and prayed for because after having three girls we were ready for a boy. We decided to name him Matthew because it means “gift of God” and he surely is. This boy has encountered obstacles almost his whole life (even in utero). Some were out of our control while others were either made by us or by him. I’ll save that for another time.
The point of saying that was to give you an inkling of an idea of what I was thinking and feeling. Actually it’s probably no different now that I think about it because when it comes to your own child those emotions and questions happen. Curious on what questions we were asking and what the responses were? Here are a few…
How do you know she’s the girl? I know that I know that I know (quite the response, eh?)
Why get married so soon after engagement? (was just engaged in May, getting married in August) why should we wait any longer when we know we want to be married, we just want something simple.
You guys are young (19 year olds), are you sure you want to do this? (his answer got me) Mom, no matter how old we are when we get married there’s going to be struggles. I want her to be the one I struggle with. (how do you respond to that?!)
After that response I stopped asking questions because it was quite obvious he was going to do this so here we are preparing for a wedding. You are probably thinking wait, do you even like the girl he’s marrying? The answer is yes and we even like her family too! (not just saying that)
My kids and husband will tell you I’m this big ball of an emotional mess. I knew one day my sweet boy who is never embarrassed to give his momma a hug and a kiss in front of anybody would grow up and get married. Have I cried? Absolutely and probably will at his wedding. Have I gotten excited? Yes because that’s one less child in the house to pick up after. Does this mean I don’t have to worry about him anymore? No, it’s just a different set of worries. We’ll deal with the situations as they come because it’s a part of life.
The “umbilical cord” has been cut and he’s ready to fly and as his parents we have the privilege of watching him soar into the man God has called him to be. Our love only grows as the family grows and I’m looking forward to it all.